Losing Friends to Death

Parable:  

Recently when talking to another widow, the loss of a friend came up in our discussion.  She had lost her close friend a few weeks before, and was feeling very heartsore.  Her friend had supported her after her husband had died.  Together, they shared laughter, secrets, sorrows and joys.  The loss is both searing and subtle, a wound that echoes in quiet moments and in the loud silence left by their absence.  I too can relate to this.  As I get older, many friends seem to be passing away.  People whom I have known and been very fond of since my school days and throughout adulthood.  

The loss of a friend can bring a particular kind of isolation. Colleagues or acquaintances may not understand the depth of the bond, or the magnitude of the pain, leading to a feeling of disenfranchised grief—a grief that is real but not always recognized.

Pebble:  

It’s important to give yourself permission to feel every emotion, and to let go of expectations about how quickly you ‘should’ be healing. Healing is not about forgetting; it’s about finding a way to carry your love and memories forward while making space for new growth.  You may decide to make a donation to a cause your friend supported. Plant a tree or ask their family if you may chose a pot plant or a piece of jewelry for yourself.

Scripture: 

2 Samuel 1 relates the story of how the death of Jonathon affected David.  It is well worth a read.

Prayer:  

Dear Jesus.  Thank You for Your friendship and companionship in times of loneliness, sorrow, or uncertainty.  Thank you for Your love that does not abandon me, Your hope that endures, and Your presence that brings peace. Amen.